You’re practicing a skill she wants to learn or finds fascinating, like beating a level in a video game or sketching in a notebook. You’re telling a compelling story and gesturing with your hands for dramatic effect. You’re talking, and it’s difficult to hear, so she’s staring at your lips to get a sense of what you say. If she compliments you, say “thanks” and have a friendly chat with her (if you want to). If not, you can always just keep doing whatever you were doing.
If she’s interested in continuing the conversation, she’ll also listen actively. That means she’s giving you her full attention, letting you finish your thoughts before replying, and asking thoughtful follow-up questions. Tell her about yourself and show her the interest is mutual by asking some thoughtful open-ended questions that allow you both to get to know one another better.
It’s also possible she could be gossiping if she heard something about you and wanted to discuss it with other friends. You can tell whether the discussion is good or bad by looking at their faces. The girl could be talking about a crush if she’s smiling and giggling with her friends. If they all look serious, it might be a negative rumor.
If you see a girl checking you out, she might be sending signals that she’d like to chat. Head over and introduce yourself, but be sure to respect her space if it turns out she was just looking!
She may also act nervous since talking to a crush can feel so intense! If you notice her talking fast and blurting things out in a way that she doesn’t do with others, she’s probably crushing on you. If you like her too, send a few signals that the crush is mutual. You could even come right out and ask her on a date if you’re confident that both of you are interested.
If this happens as you talk to her, you’ll also notice her smiling and giggling at your words, perhaps even playfully hitting you on the shoulder when you say something flirtatious. To flirt back, meet her gaze strongly without letting your eyes dart over the room. This conveys confidence and attraction!
She’ll mirror your body language, making the same movement right after you do when you’re together. She smiles more often, and those smiles are usually directed at you. She makes frequent eye contact, conveying feelings of warmth, tenderness, and affection. If you love her back, then tell her! You can also show your love through physical affection; meet her eyes and smile back, or put an arm around her and hold her close.
You can always just ignore someone staring in your direction. Alternatively, catch her eye and see how she reacts. If she looks away quickly, it was likely a subconscious stare.
If you think she’s upset, think about why or when she started acting upset to give you a clue if you’re unsure. Did you do something unintentionally hurtful, or could there be a misunderstanding between you? Approach her and ask for open communication between you both. Tell her you’d like to fix the problem and work on a solution together.
Keep an eye out for more signs. If she’s playing with your feelings to make someone else jealous, she likely won’t commit to much and will pull away from emotional intimacy, even if you go on dates together.
